SHOULD A MAN HAVE SEX WITH A MENSTRUATING WIFE?

I believe a sensible noble man can’t go ahead and sleep with a wife who is in her monthly periods. Whether we can back it up in the scriptures or not, it is wrong, spiritually, logically, it is wrong. A man must not sleep with a menstruating woman (Leviticus 15:191-23, 18:19, 20:18), (Ezekiel 18:5-6, 22:10).

Menstruation is usually only a few days, three, sometimes four days. After that, you are together as much as you wish. The argument that it is an affair between two willing adult lovers is similar to homosexuals seeking to promote their (spiritually and morally) wrong agenda.

To ask that what issue should I have with two consenting adult individuals is totally to miss the point. Consent is not necessarily proven right. If someone consents that I kill them, and indeed I do, would the law exonerate me because the dead person consented? 

If that is the case that every time there is consent it makes it right, everybody would find liberty to engage in any behavior they wish or of their choice. 

The claim that scripture may say nothing about it can be so unappealing. For what matters most is the conviction and not the letter (John 16:8), (2Corinthians 3:6). For it is not written only, but also the Spirit is convicting of. We can't wish away the Old testament (OT), because without it, the New Testament (NT) is groundless.  For the OT gives us the idea and the direction, and then it is fulfilled in the NT.

How can we do things that do not even meet worldly standards? Jesus CHRIST says; “For I say to you, unless your righteousness exceeds the righteousness of the Pharisees, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven” (Matthew 5:20).

There are many issues where we do not only have to search for scriptures for, so that even though we do not get them (the scriptures), we should never nurture a feeling that we are at liberty to act the way we would wish. The Holy Scriptures (the word of God) are very important, though. For scripture is but the basic guide, it is not an end in itself.

On the other hand, though, there are so many controversies in the world today about which many people are seeking answers. Many of such controversies have no clear cut scriptures for us to be able to have clear answers for them. 

But why do we struggle to seem to have an answer for every bit? Where is the work of the Holy Spirit who was promised to us by our Lord Jesus CHRIST (John 14:16-18)? Isn't this an age of the Holy Spirit? Why are Christians struggling for written evidence?  What more space are we looking for? For if scripture alone was enough, why did Jesus send us the Holy Spirit? The Holy Spirit can guide us much more in such controversial issues than anything else.

The answer to this question may not necessarily be traced in the New Testament just like many other issues, but shall we also conclude that there would be no conviction at all if we went on to act in that particular way? 

And if we are solely to rely on scripture, shall we only have to rely on the New Testament (NT) and always declare the Old Testament (OT) irrelevant? God forbid. The Bible is a whole book, each bit relying on the other. Both the OT and the NT still do apply to us as much (Matthew 5:17-18). 

We are not much different from the people that lived before the age of our Lord Jesus the CHRIST. For why would God refuse the people of the OT to do it but then allow us to do it? The very reason they were instructed not to sleep with menstruating wives is the same reason we of today should not. The law may not strictly be applicable today as it was in the OT, but neither should we be at liberty to act whichever way we would wish. 

There are many things we have given ourselves freedom to do yet if we inquired of the Holy Spirit, the answer would be much different. That is why Jesus could never leave us to guide ourselves, we could easily go astray, just as history has proven. He knew if He left us without the Holy Spirit and in His (Jesus’) absence, we could easily come to many unfounded conclusions.

Additionally, I strongly believe that sex is a game of the mind. Unless a person is possessed, what sexual pleasure can you have with a menstruating wife or woman for that matter? I mean it is a game that requires a strong but free mind in order to be able to carry it on to the end. 

Otherwise, people even have the strength to sleep with fellow men, animals, to rape. Someone may easily conclude that; since there is no scripture in the New Testament barring me from sleeping with a beast, I have the freedom to go ahead and sleep with it. How acceptable could such be? 

Did the NT have to go into all these details as was the OT so that we can satisfactorily conclude that scripture does or does not allow us to do this or that? 

Could having the strength to have sex with a menstruating wife or woman for that matter be justification enough to do just that? If someone can defile a two year baby! If someone can sleep with a pig or any other beast for that matter!

Christians must avoid doing things that aren’t exemplary in anyway. Scripture says we are the light of the world (Matthew 5:14-16), (Philippians 2:14-16), (1Thessalonians 5:5), (1Peter 2:9). That we are the salt of the world (Matthew 5:13). How is that? What is the light supposed to be? We must raise the bar over above the rest of the world. That is the one sure way we can appeal to so many yet to accept the gospel of truth. 

We must remain as Christians in all aspects, much, much more when we are isolated, say when in our living rooms. Not so? Avoid uncontrolled appetite. Uncontrolled appetite is the reason most people are disarraying in many issues.

My conclusion is that; noble men do not sleep with their wives when they are menstruating. It is just not right, whether scriptural or not.